I believe that in order to grow and know we have to participate with others and not always on familiar ground. Push the envelope. It is good to be out of one’s comfort zone, with others, some times. It broadens the outlook and fosters positive change.
We have to have some thing to say, some thing to contribute. We can change so much and we must all have hope or be defeated. Even when we are low and sad most of us have some capacity for choice and meaningful change that will bring real benefit.
Of course some times the darkness is seemingly insurmountable but often the way forward is brighter and clearer than we think. Even then we are some times afraid the way forward might rob us of our comfort zone where we languish in the place we know best. I have had my share of suffering brought about through my own contrivance and I was not able to see it for what it was.
Some times the well intentioned support system provided by friends, family and colleagues can be a negative force that may provide a kind of security that keeps us locked in our pain. We can get used to it and we can get used to needing to be where we are in spite of our complaining about the cost of staying in such a static mode.We can’t live in the past nor take enough succour from past glories to carry us into the future. What is gone is gone and done with.Every new day presents an opportunity to re-invent ourselves, to throw away the old us that doesn’t work well according to the new day’s review and to make a new us. I know that this opportunity is not an option for all people. Capacity is critical though I constantly see the efforts of those for whom life is irrevocably challenging and I am humbled. We should try to become how we are supposed to be. How do we know what that is? The answer is in the quest for self awareness and then self development. The barometer of success in this is felt as happiness and contentment and the increased well being of those closest.